Your boyfriend has anger issues but frankly I don’t understand why instead of ending it with him, you carry on with another guy sending him texts about attraction (sorry that alone makes it NOT platonic) and having him over when your boyfriend is out. It would be much more appropriate to end current relationship, become single and have freedom to do what you want.

I am not having anger issues but if my husband had women over when I am at work AND was attracted to them and send them texts about it, I’d break something too. It’s hard to tell whose fault is that this relationship is so messy but it sounds like you are both toxic for each other. The best is to part ways before it gets worse and potentially violent.