I think that is true. I think most of the harm that happened to me in my first therapy relationship would have been avoided if I had realized that she wasn't a good fit for me. I thought it was all me. It wasn't. I should have fired her a year before I did. But at the same time going in expecting the therapist to "fix" you isn't likely to work. You have to be able to communicate with the therapist about what is and is not working in therapy. Because they can't read minds.