Thank you for the link and advice. The only reason I get in her phone is because I've caught her messaging this guy a couple times and she's assured me it's over. I don't want to be that guy always looking or insecure but right now that's who I am because she has lied to me about him before. She really gaurds her phone and turns off her location which only raises my suspicion. I guess I'm just trying to make sense why she would tell me she cheated knowing it would hurt me. Than telling me she didn't only confusing me even more.I try and bring it up and she really just blows it off like it's not a big deal. I just can't seem to stop thinking about it maybe we should seek help