I know just what you mean by this ((leomama)).

Often when someone else has a strong voice in your mind that often comes from how the other person tended to throw out comments towards you needing to have their feelings always be the loudest. I figured out that was one of the things most of my flashbacks and triggers were reflecting. I experienced a lot of situations where others needed to take their anger and frustrations out on me, to the point where they even raged at me even when I did absolutely nothing wrong.

I think the desire is to regain your sense of control back.