Thank you for that and all your points you are making are points I've thought of and believe me I'm not controlling or insecure. I'm not stupid either and I know when something isn't quite right. My wife and I love each other very much,, we've talked about separation, even divorce. Neither of us want that and we both want to move forward, I just find it very difficult if I can't trust what she says and believe me the only part I'm confused about it's why anyone would tell someone they cheated and than say they did not. That's what I can't seem to get off my mind and what bugs me the most. I appreciate everyone's help and advice. I will deal with this and I will move forward with our without her, I love her but I can't be that guy always wondering what she is up to or the guy playing into the games. I would prefer to move forward together but it will take some work.