ONe time near the start of therapy my mum was coming to stay with me, and my T kept saying "It's ok. Just remember, you will get through this. You can call me any time that you need to." I was amazed, and I told him so. I coped with my mum for my whole life, with nobody to help me, and you've been on the scene for five minutes sunshine!

Now I think my T knows me a lot better, and also now he would typically reassure me about something I had just chosen to share with him, so we don't get this mismatch about what either of us thinks I might need reassurance about. I can understand being driven up the wall that if the mismatch kept occurring.