marriage is ok I mean we are not perfect but no means and my big thing is I don't believe in keeping secrets or hiding anything. My phone is an open book. Everything I do is an open book. I have nothing to hide and is not like I'm waiting around every corner when she puts her phone down I'm pouncing like a tiger. . Every once in awhile and when I see something I don't agree with I'm gonna say something and this ex bf thing just keeps lingering and I've explained to my wife my concern and when she replies back to the guy it's only keeping an old flame burning. She says there only friends and nothing ever happened but it's an issue were still working out. It's just really tough hearing your wife tell you with a straight face looking me in the eye that she cheated. Than ten minutes later say you didn't. That's what has me stumped, did you or didn't you and to move forward and for me to trust again I need to be confident that I don't have to worry about this guy and right now she doesn't seem to want to talk about it. Again I like things to be out in open and not the your to just sweep under the rug. I've been married once before for twenty years. Three kids that are grown now and I don't need to play games and I married this woman because I never thought I would have to worry about her cheating or lying or doing things behind my back and for the most part I can trust her and don't have to worry.. it's just this one guy that does not seem to want to go away. My only next option is to trip him myself but I'm sure that won't go well and it should not be an issue but it is