I would not have made a great parent of a girl either. My parents dressed me in boy clothes when I was little because I was supposed to have been a boy in their minds...

Now my son is 23 and I've had lots of time to think about raising him and our relationship going forward.

He was a video game addict but seems to have broken free by spending lots of time with sketchy internet access and writes open source code for games sometimes too instead of simply playing them. For him it was a gigantic escape from the chaos of our lives and losing his father at the age of 8 to a blood cancer.

I have had a strained relationship with him and now he is at my sisters getting some tlc, his driver's license and his teeth fixed.

He was so angry so much of the time. I finally learned to pull back a bit and not engage in confrontations with him. This slowly helped over time. Try to reward small changes you want to see and refrain from criticizing unless it is really a point you want to make.

My son knows I won't kick him when he is down. That's why he still calls me when he's in serious distress.

Try to encourage daily physical activity for boys. I think this is really important to help regulate their metabolism and state of mind.