A voicemail break-up, sounds like he’s the immature one, Shuis.

This happened to me and the first girl I dated. We'd only gone out for a short while, when she dumped me and quickly found someone else. We tried the “friends” thing. It was hard to listen to her talk about her new b/f, in such favourable terms. We also worked together, so I saw her for at least 10 hours each weekend. Every once and a while she would do or say things to make me think I was once again in her favour, if only for a short while. It became a very addictive situation for me. I talked to a therapist at my school and he helped me realize that I wasn't going to get what I wanted from her, a loving relationship of any kind.

What's worse is I may have overlooked other relationship possibilities because my mind was preoccupied with thoughts of her. I wasted an entire year of my life thinking about someone not worth my time. Sounds like he's treating you much in the same way I was treated, whether he realizes it or not. DON’T LET HIM MAKE YOU DOUBT YOURSELF, OR BELITTLE YOU. No relationship of any kind is worth that.

This is a learning process. You’ll find that you have more to offer the next boy, AND THERE WILL BE A NEXT BOY.

A therapist was a great help to me. Talking to a therapist is the best advise I can give. And keep talking to the folks on this forum.

Best of luck, Jess