I'm getting over some guilt feelings I had for dating someone other than my boyfriend of over 2 years. He has serious addiction issues that can make him too irritable for me. Then again, when he is "medicated", I'll call it that, because to him that is what it is, he's ok to be around. Loving, affectionate. Not generous though. He's selfish when it comes to money. Makes sense since he needs the money for his addictions. He says "I want it, I don't need it"..... which is denial. Then again he'll admit he's an addict.

He doesn't want me to date anyone else. Says he'll break up with me if I do, and I believe he will. I already feel a distance from him and like he doesn't have respect for me (I told him I want to and have dated someone else). I'm just going to end up repeating myself but....

My basic question. Is it wrong to just casually see another man and not tell my boyfriend? He gets angry at just the thought that I'm spending time with another man. So far that's all it has been. I like this other man.

My conscience says I have to be truthful to both, but that leaves me stuck with my boyfriend who is afraid of commitment, never sure of what he wants for us. I can't keep living like this not knowing if I'm right to keep it to myself, give myself a chance to get to know someone else.