EMDR T leads sessions as it's designed to be structured , but if something's happened that's bothering me we'll work on that. With regular T we'll generally go with what I want to start with and see where it leads ( which is often all over the place ) Being very structured with regular T I don't think would work for me. If he veered off too much I think I'd pull it back , like " No , I want to go here ". I wonder if sometimes what the T thinks is happening and what the client thinks is happening aren't always the same thing , happened to me today.