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Originally Posted by ruh roh
This is just a wild hunch, but if you were talking about the issue around income disparity with your husband, it could be that your therapist was in cbt fix it mode (or, fix your thinking/behavior--hard to tell without content here), not warm and fuzzy comfort the client mode.
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Yeah...I think he may have been slipping into CBT mode. Talking about me finding out how H feels about it. Saying how in middle of argument, can help to stop and say something like 'That felt mean--what did you mean by that?" Like trying to get me to not just assume the worst and mind-read (he used that term), but to ask H about stuff he'd said recently and in the past instead. That even if H was thinking what I thought was the worst, at least I'd know and could deal with it. Which...that's not what I needed to hear. Like I get what he was trying to do, but...