T just responded to my e-mail. I'm reluctant to post my original here--could people please refrain from saying negative things about what I said or how I'm treating T like MC? Because this is my therapy and my therapist and our relationship. It's not the same thing. Anyway:

"Dr. T,
So, today I was really looking for/needing support, maybe connection. But you just seemed kind of detached (arms folded most of the time, etc.). Normally I feel the caring from you, but today I just didn't. Like I was sitting there crying and just felt nothing coming from you. I know you may not be willing to say the actual words "I care about you" because some therapists are weird about that. But could you just say something that suggests you do? Or at least that you're supporting me right now?

Note: Short, free response fine; if you want to do something longer, charge accepted. If you'd prefer to meet to discuss this and have something available later this week, also open to that--let me know."

"LT,
Your email is a surprise to me - I didn't realize that you were feeling this way. Of course I care about you and how you do/feel, and I'm sorry if somehow my actions failed to convey that to you today.

Let me know if you're OK to keep the next meeting on Tuesday."

Which is really nice...I think I'd figured him to be one of those T's who wouldn't actually say the words "I care about you." So, this makes me feel better...