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Originally Posted by Elio
Hmm since I seem to be in the minority here, perhaps I don't know what is meant by reassuring behaviors/statements. Can anyone give specific examples of reassurances that go badly or where the T's are getting it wrong?
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"Don't worry, you're not the only one who feels this way..."
"What you're feeling is completely understandable, you just experienced X..."
"The feelings you have are completely normal..."
etc.
Of course this is just my opinion, these statements may comfort others. But they would not comfort me. I don't care if I am or am not the only person who feels a certain way. How others feel does not affect how I feel. I don't care if my feelings are normal or understandable. So I do not want to hear those reassurances, I want to work through the problem.