This time around, I pretty much take charge. I'm not dealing with such emotionally charged stuff, so I usually know what I want to talk about before the session. If she takes something in a direction that feels off to me, I'll usually try to ask her very directly what her thinking is, explaining my impression. Sometimes that gets us back on track and sometimes I catch a misinterpretation of her thinking on my part. Either way, it tells me something about my reactions, and keeps the dialogue going forward pretty openly. It helps that she's not defensive, and I don't feel any emotional push/pull, so those occasions of mis-attunement are rather emotionally neutral.