I don't know why I am so distraught on how disrespectful a family can be to someone who has passed away. It's like they don't want to acknowledge a successful life of someone. even if there were bad, or hard times, a person deserves to be respected at death. Even though I haven't had contact with this person in many years I don't understand people treating her life like this. It's heartbreaking and my hands are tied to help.