That is very true as well. My husband just sums it up to us getting older and because his job has him so tired. I'm starting to feel like I'm the reason for most problems we have. I know that if I don't bring up my feelings about things we have a better time together. So lately I've tried not to think too much about or into my feelings. When I have gone a week without complaining about something or talking about whatever I usually would have, things have been better for that week. No arguments and he seemed happier. I just distract myself with games or something else. That only works in short spurts though as feelings tend to eventually come up again. Always from me.