This was very much the case with my 1st T. He has a tendency to be very dogmatic and project the same kind of *** onto everyone. I think it can fit many people but was completely irrelevant and inaccurate with me. He tried to reassure me about things that did not even exist in me and then got upset and twisted it further when I complained and criticized it.

The other T was much better at providing tailored support and stopped saying things when I pointed out they were unnecessary. He was reassuring with his consistency, reliability and generally positive attitude and this worked much better for me.

For me, the problem with reassurance from a T can be twofold: when they miss the mark and reassure something that is not even there, and when their overall presentation and work ethic is such that I lose respect for them. Reassurance can sound irritating and condescending from someone I don't have much respect for and who repeatedly demonstrates a lot of hypocrisy and low standards.