We have Alex, who is currently merged with another system member, for 1.5 years now. She has always been someone who is a more functional part of the system. When we feel like we are on auto-pilot, it's Alex taking care of things. We don't know much about her at all, which leads us to the conclusion that she is a fragment, with a single purpose. In order to facilitate healing in our therapy and daily life, we are working on un-merging her and getting to know her. Is this possible if she is, indeed, a fragment? Is there any way to know for sure?
Is it simply a matter of trying to connect better with her and if we can, then she is not a fragment?
We are confused about what fragments really are and if they have the opportunity, could they develop further without trauma forcing it to happen.
Thanks.