I'm sorry you're having a hard time Cthebird. I've been on both sides of the fence in the past and now. There were entire years where I couldn't do much of anything at all.

Necessity has been a good motivator for me, at least lately. I work at least 50 hours a week, I go to the gym, and I make time to spend with my girlfriend. None of these things are optional - if I don't work I don't get to eat and sleep indoors. If I don't exercise, I feel weak and tired, and if I don't spend time with my girlfriend, I lose out on the sweetness and light that she brings to my life, which makes the rest of what I do much more worthwhile.

I hope you find your "groove" soon.