My boyfriend and I have been together over a year now. He is also 4 years younger than me, but he has always been very mature for his age and that's the reason I agree to be with him. We are also long distance living across the country from each other.

Our relationship has always been really great and he would go above and beyond for me. We have visited each other multiple times and met each other's friends and family. During our 6 month into the relationship, we got into a really big fight which led to me calling it quits because I was so frustrated with him. He ended going out with friends to a party and got blacked out drunk because he was really upset. We were fighting over text all night and decided that we would talk about it in the morning when I got some rest and he had sobered up. He told me the next day that he had kissed one of his friends and he apologized profusely about how stupid it was and he didn't mean to do it to hurt me. It took me a good 3-4 months to fully get over it. But I don't think I really had.

Lately, we have been hitting a lot of bumpy obstacles and I started making a list of things that need to be discussed if we wanted to move forward as a couple. He agreed that it was an excellent idea, but has not set aside time out of his schedule to do it. He is still in school studying engineering and also training in the military along with a part time job, so I understand he is really busy. But I feel like I barely even get time with him anymore and I really want to go over things with him because it's starting to eat me alive. I'm also super insecure when he goes out when we have an argument now because I'm terrified he would do something again even if he hasn't done anything since that kiss. I just don't know what to do. He tells me he loves me alot and wants to work towards a future together, but now I'm just frustrated because I don't feel like a priority. HELP!