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Originally Posted by Patagonia
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Yes I agree some are very disrespectful regarding death. My nephew killed himself last yr & my SIL told me there were so many people that wanted the intimate details of it all. How rude!
My father was & still is very angry about it calling him selfish & a waste! And the way his parents decided to bury him wasn’t “proper.”
WTH! I don’t even try to understand this except older people will never change. Their conscious & subconscious is already set in stone & unable to change.
To me, I pass them by bec they’re not worth my time or different opinion.
Sigh....
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So sorry to hear about your nephew. Sometimes I think people ask about details to try to make some sense of it in their own mind. They are so hurt that they are looking for something to blame. Not necessarily the deceased, or family, but something because they can't believe it happened to this person. Suicide is not selfish, IMHO. It's a personal choice of escaping something horribly wrong. When they get to that point they are not thinking of others, just how they can escape their pain. Sometimes you have to do that and take care of yourself, because "others" can not grasp the pain inside of a person. My father died by suicide.
I don't understand my situation where there was no memorial service, no obituary posted......it's like the accomplishments of the life never happened
