[QUOTE=ElectricManatee;6000929] it seems like a sneaky T trick to keep me engaged with the issue and to keep me motivated to pour out all my feelings and reactions. I can think of a few specific situations where her apologizing right away would have cut off the opportunity for us both to learn from my reaction because it would have taken the wind from the sails of my (justifiable) self-righteous anger.


Yeah, part of my reluctance to continue on with this T is that I do have a lot of self-righteous anger. And I'm afraid that the therapy is going to turn a corner into gender politics rather than dealing with my basic issue: loneliness. And as I have come to believe, loneliness--at least in modern American culture -- is just a notch or two above leprosy.