My parents dropped me off at the therapist in the spirit of "fix this kid" as opposed to looking at all at their parenting. I lived in a chaotic situation and the psychologist was only another leg-stool in the drama.

My therapy was --meh, but also not particularly important compared to everything else in my life.

So at 66, here's the advice I wish I could have given my younger self, assuming time travel is possible.

. My parents' drama ultimately is not important. Seek the best teachers, soak every bit of education you can, work and study hard, and prepare your mind and body for many decades of life once the drama is over.
. Seek out wise adults (and maybe kids) who can be advice givers and sounding boards for you. But then remember, you hold your own truth.
. Your dependency years will end before you know it. Then you'll need the balancing act between listening to other's opinions and deciding what applies to you.
. Find joy, fun and laughter, and cherish those times.
. Enjoy your youthful appearance and good health. Don't let self-criticism prevent you for enjoying this and taking care of yourself. Ask anyone 60+ if they'd trade those with you!
. Contrary to appearances, growing up includes misery, awkwardness, doubts and isolation for everyone. I doubt they're many, if any golden lives.
. It does get better. You learn what hairstyles and clothes work. You discover your talents and learn to negotiate the world with more ease.