Well, maybe you're doing all you can. Then, again, you won't go to the birthday party, unless she takes you back as a boyfriend. That seems like you've just got to have things your way.

Actually, I don't believe that ex-romantic partners can stay connected as "just friends." So what you're saying does make sense to me, if it's over as a romance. No normal guy wants to hang around a woman he desires just to be buddies. So I'm not telling you to do that. It boils down to whether you are giving up on getting her back.

From what you describe of her emotional tendencies, she sounds pretty sensitive and not someone who can blow off what disturbs her. So maybe the two off you really just aren't right for each other. It may be that this is all an excessive reaction. I think you have to look at the history you've had together. Is this part of a pattern? Any couple are going to have ups and downs and rub each other the wrong way. If she has zero tolerance for being hurt, she's probably not going to last too long with any guy. She may have unrealistic expectations.