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Old Jan 31, 2018, 09:11 PM
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Originally Posted by mcl6136 View Post
Yeah, well there is a lot of social science research that suggests that when we hear flattery, it "works" as in it enhances our view of the flatterer, even when we don't actually believe their buttering-up words. See here. Even obviously manipulative comments are surprisingly effective:

https://www.scientificamerican.com/a...l-get-you-far/

I think that's kind of disturbing in some ways but maybe Stopdog has a really fine-tuned b.s. detector. Maybe other people who are on the receiving end of flattery don't want to hear it, don't believe it and to paraphrase Groucho Marx, don't want to be in a club that would have them as a member!
Flattery isn't reassurance. Flattery is flattery.
Bs isn't reassurance. Bs is bs.

If a therapist uses flattery and bs, they are not using reassurance.

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re·as·sur·ance

noun
the action of removing someone's doubts or fears.
"children need reassurance and praise"

a statement or comment that removes someone's doubts or fears.
plural noun: reassurances

Last edited by Anonymous52976; Jan 31, 2018 at 09:37 PM. Reason: Tmi