I think we can prolong our own pain and actually make it worse when we wont fully accept the reality of the situation.

A T can love their client dearly but at the end of the day they are your T, not your friend, lover or parent. You are their client. If a T says yes to being friends straight after termination then I don't believe that is a good thing. As someone else pointed out, you dont go to therapy to make a friend.

I struggle as much as anyone with transference, if not more so, and to keep wanting something that is not realistic only makes the pain worse. You cant make yourself not want something but you can tell yourself the truth of the situation and learn to let your hope for something more, die. It is a slow process. And painful.