If your grandmother is to go from hospital to nursing home is it because of medical or mental issues? Who will decide which nursing home will become her new residence?

No, you’re not at all to blame for the decisions of others. I think that someone in your family would be able to select the nursing home? And I think that a family member should tell your gran that she won’t be going home with family members but rather into a ‘new home’ where she will receive the care that she needs.

There are many websites that can help you select the very best nursing home in your area. If you’re in the U.S., most states have departments that make quarterly or annual ‘surprise’ visits to nursing homes and make public any deficiencies that they find.

I was in a horrible nursing home for eight-years. I don’t believe that all nursing homes are bad but I think that it’s wise to try to find the very best in your area. Many, if not all, homes have a salesperson, of sorts. Or the social workers do the grand tours. You should always insist on talking to the administrator and ask to see the latest State report (I don’t recall the name of these documents - sometimes they will be in a binder in the lobby).

You took your grandmother to a hospital for a reason and the professionals directing her to a nursing home made the decision for a reason. I’m just suggesting that it may be reasonable to insist on having a say in selecting her new home.

Peace out.