He does work a lot so yes he's gone a lot. I sometimes suspect an affair but mostly out of jealousy or envy. I have asked for an open relationship, open marriage twice now and both times he's been very much against. I do feel like if we split up and he had someone else, he would put a lot of energy into the new person. Energy that I wish he'd give me and our relationship. I still have that energy and I try to give it to him but he's not taking all of it.