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Originally Posted by Só leigheas
My fiance and I had to sit down and talk to each other about what triggers me. Basically, the main rule is my necessity to be in charge 100%. He has to ask me permission to take some control. If your H is willing to work it out with you, sit down and have an open conversation about that sort of thing.
I know it's been a bit since you posted this, how are you doing currently?
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Thanks! With me it’s the opposite. I want him to take control, but not in a violent or hurtful way, but sensually. Do you know how futile it is to insist to someone who won’t do something, to do it? I do!
I’m living and trying to enjoy my life. And frankly, he’s not sympathetic to my illness at this point either, never was. If I told you the last incident the other day you would SCREAM. He said something so awful and condescending to me about PTSD, I won’t even say, too TRIGGERING.