@confused... I think the fact that you're wanting your therapist to tell you when enough is enough it's kind of a sign that you feel you've gone over the limit. I agree with LT maybe it's best that you set the limit yourself before your therapist comes in and sets the limits for you at that point you will probably be very resentful. I totally blame therapist for this scenario honestly I don't feel they should allow that extent of outside communication to begin with it only sets the client up for dependency and heartbreak down the road. I understand when you said the high is mutual but again that is the therapists fault for allowing it to happen. If the therapist would have taught you coping skills to begin with rather than allowing all of the emails and the habit to form you wouldn't be in this situation.

Personally I am so glad that my therapist does not encourage outside contact. He taught me mindfulness and journaling from the second session on. I totally get needing to get the thoughts out of your head and that's what I use journaling for or sometimes I will speak them into my phone as a verbal message once I get it out I can let go of it but I don't have to hand it off to my therapist immediately it stays in the journal it stays in my phone until my session then I bring up what still bothering me at the time. I know clients to use emailing and texting as a crutch really enjoy that privilege but I don't think they realize what a disservice their therapist is started until it becomes a problem or it's taken away that it only causes more pain.