I wouldn't be happy for a T to say that to me. We don't choose abusive parents or whatever has caused issues. We do have choices on how to deal with the things that have happened and the issues. I wouldn't find that helpful and can't imagine either of my T's saying that. Sometimes things are impossible , so we may choose not to continue ( I've found it impossible to continue a friendship for instance ) which is a choice. No doubt some people would like to tell us our choices are wrong though.