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I had the same issues with my ex-T. Severe parental transference and if he was being human and had a bad day and was more going through the motions in therapy then I turned it onto myself thinking I was bad or did something wrong or was no longer "special" to him.
I am in therapy with a new therapist who is about 15 years younger than me so I am hoping that type of transference does not happen again. It was so painful.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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