I'm the same in that I always think it's about me if someone is distant or off. I usually can't pinpoint what is wrong but I know something is. My mind says its me 'They no longer like me', 'They are annoyed with me' or 'I have done something wrong?' etc....Over the past few years I've come to realise that more often than not when this happens it is not about me at all. Usually, it is simply that the other person is tired, having a bad day or has something else preoccupying their mind. Yes, sometimes it might be something I did but more times it's not.

Now, if I can I usually just ask. Something like 'You seem kind of distant is everything okay?' 'Or you seem different today I am not sure how but is everything okay'? I don't always get the response I want but a lot of times the person has shared 'I'm just really tired as I didn't sleep well last night' or 'my sister is going through a tough time and I'm thinking of her etc. It has helped stop my mind running around in circles soooo much when the other person is honest. My point is your T may have seemed detached because he was. Maybe he was just tired, preoccupied or just having a bad day and didn't properly keep it out of the room like he should have.

You are not being 'pathetic' having all these feelings.. It is quite common to feel jealous of other clients particularly when you have intense transference for him. If he is a good T he will be open to hearing about your feelings and what is coming up for you. I very much doubt he will freak out. The only way through them is sharing them and exploring them IMO