I found a male T for my husband and I to see as a couples therapist, because I thought my husband would be more comfortable, and also on the recommendation of a friend of mine. A few months in, I started also seeing him individually to work on self-esteem issues. Had I not already known this T, I would never in a million years have chosen a male T to see individually (sorry if that is offensive, but it would have felt simply pragmatic to me, as the odds of a good connection with a woman would have seemed so much more probable).

And yet I think my T is excellent and it's been very productive and healing to see him. So, I can both understand having misgivings or worries, and I can also say I've been unexpectedly happy with a male T.

I've experienced a negative transference that had to do with mistreatment from men in the earlier part of my life, and it was very useful to explore and work through, and I'm not sure this would have happened with a female T. So there is also that.

Good luck to you.