This, and my various T's have all been humble and willing to make right whatever they have gotten wrong. And it's been an important part of my own growth to be able to confront T and others in ways that are productive and open hearted. I used to be more accusatory and attacking and neither of those really help bring a situation into a place of understanding and support.

I think it's a really important part of all relationships to figure out how to right what goes off the rails. I've never had any relationship that was just smooth sailing. T or not. What makes or breaks the relationship is how you manage the disagreements or other negative interactions.

Therapists are not the only ones with huge egos and problems with narcissism. Clients bring these traits to therapy and it can be clients who make it impossible to resolve even the smallest disagreements. I've had some interactions out in the world with narcissistic people and I end up walking away after I realize I actually don't like banging my head against the wall. You never know whose issues makes things blow up, but one thing I know for sure is that in my own therapy, the way my T's have handled criticism of what they have said and done has helped me be more gentle with other people. Therapy has helped me learn how to be open about what's bothering me without annihilating the other person.