it would make me feel hurt that he "forgot" something that important to me. ive had guys tell me that it would turn them on to be woken up like that too but i understand where youre coming from. you should be open and let him know how it made you feel. maybe he thinks that total sex is wrong but touching is okay. and if its not he needs to know that.

keeping something like that inside of you can only lead to resentment. not being open about your feelings could later cause you to be angry about something that he has no clue about. i always hate it when someone, a year later, gets so mad at me for something i "always do" but i never know i do it because they don't tell me. i think this would be a good turning point for you. if you tell him he can react in 1 of 2 ways and maybe the way he reacts will either strengthen your relationship or weaken it. either way, you need to know what his intentions are and how he meant those gestures.

and if he gets mad and leaves you then he doesnt deserve you anyways. you deserve someone who is understanding and patient with you through all your triggers. i used to feel scared about that too so i would have sex with boyfriend while crying and they never noticed. my current boyfriend notices every facial expression change and has never once gotten mad at me for remembering a bad memory. i hope you figure everything out.