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Originally Posted by Thalassophile
It confuses me as to how you don't see it as being open, honest, vunerable etc? I mean I understand how it is something that you would not want to receive but the email clearly says that the T care's about RS and to me that is a clear indication of someone showing openness, honesty etc.
The OP also said that in their original email their understanding of caring for someone is that they are present in their heart and not just that they are thought about every now and again. The T responds to this by saying;
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I am not criticizing RS or that particular therapist.
I am saying that is an example of what I find to be extremely frustrating when dealing with them and when they are allowed to speak- obfuscating gobbly gook is what it is to me. I would not be rejecting of it because I find it open honest and vulnerable- I would not understand it as being that so I could not reject it for that reason - I would be frustrated because I would not understand the point of it at all.
The reason I commented in the first place was because I was struck at how many people seemed to understand it in the same way as you do. And how I think that may be where I have a big disconnect with both therapists and with people here who seem to understand these things intuitively when for me - it is not.
The woman I hired told me she cared about me - I have no idea why she brought it up at all and no - I did not experience it as evidence she was showing openness or honesty - that is simply not my response to such a statement.
This observation is completely separate from what I might want or not want from one of those people.