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Originally Posted by stopdog
I am not criticizing RS or that particular therapist.
I am saying that is an example of what I find to be extremely frustrating when dealing with them and when they are allowed to speak- obfuscating gobbly gook is what it is to me. I would not be rejecting of it because I find it open honest and vulnerable- I would not understand it as being that so I could not reject it for that reason - I would be frustrated because I would not understand the point of it at all.
The reason I commented in the first place was because I was struck at how many people seemed to understand it in the same way as you do. And how I think that may be where I have a big disconnect with both therapists and with people here who seem to understand these things intuitively when for me - it is not.
The woman I hired told me she cared about me - I have no idea why she brought it up at all and no - I did not experience it as evidence she was showing openness or honesty - that is simply not my response to such a statement.
This observation is completely separate from what I might want or not want from one of those people.
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Ah, I see.....Well, I think I do...kind of...
So you aren't arguing that RS therapist was not saying that she didn't care merely that you yourself find it difficult to see the care or vulnerability in the message she wrote and whilst a lot of people on the board do see it you simply cannot. Somewhat similar to the time your therapist said they cared about you. You cannot seem to connect them saying those words to them showing vulnerability or genuine feelings for you and you don't want to. That's interesting..... Not something I completely understand if I am being honest but I think we may view things from very different angles. Some interesting and honest observations nonetheless.