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Old Feb 02, 2018, 03:15 PM
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Originally Posted by Thalassophile View Post
Ah, I see.....Well, I think I do...kind of...

So you aren't arguing that RS therapist was not saying that she didn't care merely that you yourself find it difficult to see the care or vulnerability in the message she wrote and whilst a lot of people on the board do see it you simply cannot. Somewhat similar to the time your therapist said they cared about you. You cannot seem to connect them saying those words to them showing vulnerability or genuine feelings for you and you don't want to. That's interesting..... Not something I completely understand if I am being honest but I think we may view things from very different angles. Some interesting and honest observations nonetheless.
Yes and thus if I had received that sort of response (and it is the sort of thing to woman did at me And it did frustrate the bejesus out of me), I would not/did not feel heard or understood. I would have/did felt messed with and dismissed. I did want to understand what the hell the woman was talking about and why even if I did not want the reason for it.Understanding what was being done or said is different from wanting the thing done.
And I am amazed that most people are not like me according to what is being written here. It really does surprise me.

It even seems difficult for me to figure out ways to convey what I'm talking about here without people jumping in the wrong direction about what point I'm making.
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Last edited by stopdog; Feb 02, 2018 at 04:37 PM.
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