So, two and a bit years ago I met someone in hospital. We became really good friends. We ended up being discharged on the same day and spent a lot of time together out in the real world.
I have been there for her, always. I have done so much to help her, literally dropped everything to help her in a crisis.
Recently she accused me of being a bad friend. Mainly I think this is out of jealousy as I’m in a new relationship, but she feels that I am not there for her anymore. It’s difficult as she is now living far away. One of the reasons I am a bad friend is because I’m too busy working. Or I’m with my girlfriend.
Obviously, I cannot help that i have a life that goes on while she is not here.
I know that she struggles with her mental health and that’s probably where a lot of the insecurities come from, but at the same time she called me a bad friend. And I just can’t move on from that. Every time I think about her now it makes me angry. I’m struggling to move on from what she said. I told her I need some time and space to think things through, and then she messaged me again today which just made me angry again.
Am I meant to forgive and forget? I really don't know how. I am very close to just cutting all ties with her, but maybe that isn’t the answer either. I’m just not sure what I should do at this point.
What would you do in this situation?
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