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Originally Posted by atisketatasket
Since when has it been the purpose of therapy to change “core values”? Behaviors or attitudes, okay, but not what makes us us.
I find the whole idea of changing core values creepy.
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I guess it depends on how one defines core values. In this context, I took it as meaning more the core beliefs that cause us our individual struggles. For me, they are things like unlovable, unworthy, replaceable, too much. I do hope therapy will change some of them and it why I am still in therapy. I've heard though that you can't change core shame, you can only learn how to recognize that is what is going on and adjust your behavior accordingly. I am hoping that is not the case.
I did not take it to mean things like honor, respect, integrity... and such that I hold as core values. Though, I do hope that therapy will help put some of those in perspective as to allow me to forgive myself when I feel I have crossed one of those core values and realize what is excessive in those core values.