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Originally Posted by seesaw
That's so funny to think of for me. I think of my parents' marriage...I don't think they were a team, like working together, towards anything. In fact they seemed only out to "get" each other, backstab each other, do things behind the other's back, hurt the other. It did not seem like one thing they did had any sort of tie in to a mutual goal. And I know I didn't see everything, but they weren't exactly private about anything, so I saw a lot.
Seesaw
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Same here in some ways. My parents were a team in some ways and very much not a team in others as my dad kind of ran a show, he is controlling and both I and my brother are like him in a way, milder version. My mom is “too nice” type. I didn’t have a good marriage model at all. They did get better with age but it sucked when we were young. My mom is very sick now with cancer and she might be losing a battle and my dad is pretty good taking care of her (even when we do things he has to feel like he is running a show) but he is having hard dealing with it in some ways (he gets very stressed). We are terrified how he’ll handle it if mom won’t make it. At times I think they’d be better off divorced but who knows. Maybe not.