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Originally Posted by MoxieDoxie
....or something like that. My new EMDR-T said I am what they called in his field "Theraperized" as he puts his hands up and outlines quotes with his fingers. It means I have had so much therapy and have read everything I could that I could be a therapist.
Oh great so there is no hope.
He said what happens with those like me is our core values have not changed and we still have those faulty core values.
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Yikes! I guess it's good that the therapy professionals can recognize there might be an issue with this, but the way it is framed it sounds like more "client-blaming" to me.
NOT a positive sign -- in the therapist, would be my take. Maybe he was just repeating some things he had heard. And it does seem to me like EMDR might help with stuff more easily and with less damage than regular old therapy.
But, in my experience, client-blaming is (re) traumatic and just plain traumatic! Hitting people when they are "down" and looking for help. If the therapy in question, or the therapist, can't help, then it is the THERAPY or THERAPISTS' fault, no matter what personal "faults" and experiences the client brought to the table. If the client was hurt by too much therapy, blame the previous therapists.
I'm not in therapy any more, but client-blaming is definitely not something I would tolerate any more. It can have very bad "side effects". Perhaps sometimes it serves a purpose? But I would definitely question and ask about that.
Underneath the "traumatic" values I am finding something else entirely, maybe. Getting through the trauma to those -- that's been the bigger issue as I see it.