Eve
Is that okay if I suggest my sincere opinion? I am just very concerned that you will be upset....
So, here is my opinion: fix you first, fix your life without romance, focus on your housing situation and your new employment. Focus on your inner peace, your heart and focus on healing yourself without a romance in the picture. Try to do it alone. Please do try to better your life independent from the romance. Let the romance wagon go for now. And get back on it when you heal enough. I don’t have a timeline to suggest but i suggest that you remain single for as long as possible to heal inner you...
I don’t think you (or anyone else in this situation) have the time to focus on romance, now. Your energy and time are better spent on focusing your inner peace, your career and housing situation. Focus on making Eve great without a romance. Romance will come later. Focus on you, stay single for a good amount time to figure out the other aspects of your life, to fill the other holes in your life.
I think bringing in romance to your life, when it is not the right time, will only slow you down in other aspects of your life. While romance and partnership might temporarily help you deal with your problems, it won’t fix anything and it will add to your problems.
Please try to accept the possibility that this is not the season for romance.
There is a season for everyone.
I wonder if you are addicted to romance? This may be an irrelevant question but worth thinking about?