Oh BlueDiamond, I read your post and just sat here for the longest time. You are right people can be so cruel. It would be nice if you had one person or friend to confide in at work. Maybe they could clue you in about your team members. Or actually you may have the nerve one day to ask them why they dont want to be your friend. Since I do not know you personally or work with you I can not see what is going on. But listening to your side makes me very upset. Maybe they are taking advantage of your insecurity to make themselves feel better. You said you think you are paranoid and that maybe they are not saying what they mean or meaning what they say. Possible yes, Possible no. If I were you, I would have people meet me at work and go out with them. Or go outdoors and eat with them. Even if I had to ask family. I would not honor them with your presence. They do not deserve it. I wish I had more or better advise for you. I think if you have other things to do at lunch and or with other people it would make you feel better and they would see you are desperate to be their friend. My best thoughts will be with you. Now hold your head high and smile and let them know you are a wonderful person and you dont need to hang with them.