I used romance, almost like an addiction if not an outright addiction, to distract myself from the unhappiness I had with the rest of my life and with myself as a human being. It's like a drug... think about a man I'm involved with and don't think about things in my life i'm unhappy with. I think this is pr etty common.

It's also common to make cognitive distortions like: I'm alone now and will be alone forever. That forever is part of black and white thinking. It isn't real. It's a distortion.

I finally understood that I had to grow as a person before I could have a healthy romantic relationship. At least I am not painfully missing feeling 'in love' anymore...