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Originally Posted by tecomsin
I used romance, almost like an addiction if not an outright addiction, to distract myself from the unhappiness I had with the rest of my life and with myself as a human being. It's like a drug... think about a man I'm involved with and don't think about things in my life i'm unhappy with. I think this is pr etty common.
It's also common to make cognitive distortions like: I'm alone now and will be alone forever. That forever is part of black and white thinking. It isn't real. It's a distortion.
I finally understood that I had to grow as a person before I could have a healthy romantic relationship. At least I am not painfully missing feeling 'in love' anymore...
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Ty for sharing this.... I feel like I may have been doing the same thing at different times in my life. I have been happy and unhappy.... so it has gone up and down always..... there are times when I've felt on top of the world and didn't need or want a relationship, and other times when I have felt so needy for love .... when my life has been most unhappy.
Right now, I don't feel starved for love because I have too much to focus on myself, but that black and white thinking is there for sure. TY for pointing this out to me.
