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Old Feb 03, 2018, 08:10 PM
BudFox BudFox is offline
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This sounds to me pretty much like the facts of what happened to Budfox. Maybe the therapist would "frame" it differently, put different language on it, focus on different aspects.

But somehow that isn't the same to me as a matter of "perception". And that's not saying that all therapy-client experiences are like that, either.

But I believe Budfox. His perspective sounds very plausible to me. It also doesn't sound like anybody in the therapy world did -- or has -- taken his perspectively seriously, "with empathy", stepping into his shoes.

Glad you keep putting it out there, Budfox! Maybe the most you can do. Your story and your experiences need to be taken seriously, in my view.

Maybe what one perceives does depend somewhat on one's point of view, where one "stands", or the position one has been placed in. The point of view, and the person, are still valid, in my view. Even when I disagree.
A person's "perceptions" should never be a topic of discussion unless the person has asked for that sort of feedback. Seems like an obvious boundary to me.

I have no interest in getting my "story" heard or believed. Likewise fishing for empathy from therapists or therapy culture at large. Why do it? Why lean on strangers (or anyone) to provide this validation? Why pay someone to dispense empathy or validation like a vending machine (as someone said)?

If you pay someone to say "i'm sorry", what has been accomplished? I understand the drive behind these needs, but I don't see the point in pretending it means anything. That is my honest feeling.