This might be one of those times when asking yourself the question, "why do I want to know this? why am I asking this now?" may be useful to you. This is a question that at some level everyone knows is primed to provoke rejection, because the standard trained
t worry is that saying "yes" even in a small way (particularly with someone who has had trouble overstepping boundaries with professionals in the past) will encourage the client to quit therapy in pursuit of the promised relationship. Think about what has happened in the past when you've asked other people this question. Saying "no" makes the client feel rejected, which may encourage her to leave therapy. Seems like either way, it's sabotage to the T relationship and may very well lead to the client quitting. Do you want to quit therapy, are you looking for an excuse?

I really encourage you to think about stopping email with your T about anything that matters to you. Save these questions or thoughts for your sessions.